Separation and Divorce

The end of a relationship is one of life's hardest chapters. You do not have to navigate it alone.

The end of a relationship is one of life's hardest chapters. You do not have to navigate it alone.

Compassionate therapy for separation and divorce in Northern Ireland. We help you process the grief and upheaval of relationship breakdown and build a foundation for what comes next, at your own pace and on your own terms.

Compassionate therapy for separation and divorce in Northern Ireland. We help you process the grief and upheaval of relationship breakdown and build a foundation for what comes next, at your own pace and on your own terms.

Calm counselling room with two armchairs for therapy sessions in Northern Ireland

Navigating the Emotional Landscape of Separation and Divorce

Navigating the Emotional Landscape of Separation and Divorce

The Grief of Relationship Breakdown

The end of a significant relationship involves genuine and often complicated grief. You may mourn the relationship itself, the future you had planned, the family structure you hoped for, or the person you were within the relationship. This grief deserves to be properly acknowledged and processed rather than hurried through in the name of moving on.

Managing Co-Parenting, Family and the Practicalities of Separation

When children are involved, separation brings additional layers of complexity. Managing co-parenting relationships with a former partner, supporting children through the transition, and navigating extended family dynamics all require significant emotional resources at a time when those resources are already strained. Therapy provides consistent, skilled support through this demanding period.

Support in Northern Ireland

NI Counselling provides specialist separation and divorce therapy across Northern Ireland. Our therapists support individuals through all stages of relationship breakdown with warmth and genuine expertise. Both in-person and online sessions are available.

Our Service Areas:

Belfast City

Co. Antrim

Co. Down

Derry/L'Derry

Remote NI

UK-wide Online

Expert Methodologies for Lasting Relief

We don't believe in a one-size-fits-all approach. We utilize the gold standard of evidence-based psychological interventions.

Processing Grief and Loss

Separation involves real and significant loss across multiple dimensions. We provide a space where the full complexity of this grief can be acknowledged and worked through at your own pace, without the pressure from well-meaning others to simply get on with things.

Rebuilding Identity and Independence

Long relationships shape identity profoundly. Separation often raises fundamental questions about who you are outside of the partnership. We work with you to reconnect with your own values, strengths and sense of self and build an independent identity that is genuinely yours.

Supporting Co-Parenting and Family Navigation

Where children are involved, we help you develop the emotional tools and practical approaches to manage co-parenting relationships constructively, support your children through the transition, and maintain your own wellbeing alongside the demands of solo parenting.

Meet our Team

Meet our Team

Our team is hand-selected not just for their clinical excellence, but for their empathetic, editorial approach to modern mental health.

Our team is hand-selected not just for their clinical excellence, but for their empathetic, editorial approach to modern mental health.

Portrait of Tory Stirling, integrative adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Tory Stirling

Integrative Adult Counsellor

Tory is a BACP registered integrative counsellor with specialist experience in complex trauma, bereavement and neurodiversity, including over ten years working in the field of autism. Flexible, relational and neuroaffirming in approach, she supports adults across a wide range of emotional and psychological difficulties.

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Portrait of Raymond McLean, adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Raymond McLean

Adult Counsellor

Raymond is a dually registered integrative counsellor with extensive experience across community and private mental health settings. Person-centred, warm and adaptable, he supports adults through anxiety, bereavement, trauma, low mood and workplace stress from his Antrim practice.

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Portrait of Steven Montgomery, adult integrative counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Steven Montgomery

Adult Integrative Counsellor

Steven is a NCPS registered integrative counsellor offering a safe, non-judgmental space for adults navigating anxiety, low mood, grief, identity and relationship difficulties. Warm, accessible and person-centred at his core, he works collaboratively to build self-understanding and resilience.

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Portrait of Orla McFadden, adult integrative counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Orla McFadden

Adult Integrative Counsellor

Orla is a BACP registered integrative counsellor offering online and telephone sessions. Drawing on person-centred, CBT and psychodynamic approaches, she creates a safe, collaborative space for adults working through depression, anxiety, bereavement, low self-esteem and relationship difficulties.

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Portrait of Sarah Etheridge, adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Sarah Etheridge

Adult Counsellor

Sarah is a BACP registered counsellor with specialist training in IFS, trauma and attachment. Working through a person-centred and psychodynamic lens, she offers a warm, trusting therapeutic relationship to support adults with anxiety, grief, trauma, PTSD and a wide range of personal difficulties.

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Portrait of Orla Cogill, adult psychotherapist at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Orla Cogill

Adult Psychotherapist

Orla Cogill is a qualified Cognitive Behavioural Psychotherapist supporting adults with anxiety, depression, trauma, low mood and stress. Orla integrates CBT, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Compassion-Focused Therapy (CFT) and EMDR, tailoring sessions to individual sensory and processing needs. She offers a warm, evidence-based approach, helping clients build self-understanding, self-compassion and practical coping skills.

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Portrait of Robyn Lough, integrative adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Robyn Lough

Integrative Adult Counsellor

Robyn is a BACP registered integrative counsellor based in Banbridge. Warm, collaborative and solution-aware in her approach, she supports adults through anxiety, bereavement, trauma, neurodivergence and a wide range of life challenges, offering in-person, online and telephone sessions.

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Portrait of Michelle Duffy, adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Michelle Duffy

Adult Counsellor

Michelle Duffy is an MBACP Accredited Counsellor and Psychotherapist with over 11 years' clinical experience. Michelle works with adults, young people and children experiencing trauma, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem and relationship difficulties. She offers an integrative, creative approach, including EMDR, helping clients heal and move forward with confidence.

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Portrait of Tory Stirling, integrative adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Tory Stirling

Integrative Adult Counsellor

Portrait of Steven Montgomery, adult integrative counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Steven Montgomery

Adult Integrative Counsellor

Portrait of Sarah Etheridge, adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Sarah Etheridge

Adult Counsellor

Portrait of Robyn Lough, integrative adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Robyn Lough

Integrative Adult Counsellor

Portrait of Raymond McLean, adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Raymond McLean

Adult Counsellor

Portrait of Orla McFadden, adult integrative counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Orla McFadden

Adult Integrative Counsellor

Portrait of Tory Stirling, integrative adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Tory Stirling

Integrative Adult Counsellor

Tory is a BACP registered integrative counsellor with specialist experience in complex trauma, bereavement and neurodiversity, including over ten years working in the field of autism. Flexible, relational and neuroaffirming in approach, she supports adults across a wide range of emotional and psychological difficulties.

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Portrait of Robyn Lough, integrative adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Robyn Lough

Integrative Adult Counsellor

Robyn is a BACP registered integrative counsellor based in Banbridge. Warm, collaborative and solution-aware in her approach, she supports adults through anxiety, bereavement, trauma, neurodivergence and a wide range of life challenges, offering in-person, online and telephone sessions.

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Portrait of Steven Montgomery, adult integrative counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Steven Montgomery

Adult Integrative Counsellor

Steven is a NCPS registered integrative counsellor offering a safe, non-judgmental space for adults navigating anxiety, low mood, grief, identity and relationship difficulties. Warm, accessible and person-centred at his core, he works collaboratively to build self-understanding and resilience.

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Portrait of Raymond McLean, adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Raymond McLean

Adult Counsellor

Raymond is a dually registered integrative counsellor with extensive experience across community and private mental health settings. Person-centred, warm and adaptable, he supports adults through anxiety, bereavement, trauma, low mood and workplace stress from his Antrim practice.

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Portrait of Sarah Etheridge, adult counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Sarah Etheridge

Adult Counsellor

Sarah is a BACP registered counsellor with specialist training in IFS, trauma and attachment. Working through a person-centred and psychodynamic lens, she offers a warm, trusting therapeutic relationship to support adults with anxiety, grief, trauma, PTSD and a wide range of personal difficulties.

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Portrait of Orla McFadden, adult integrative counsellor at NI Counselling in Northern Ireland

Orla McFadden

Adult Integrative Counsellor

Orla is a BACP registered integrative counsellor offering online and telephone sessions. Drawing on person-centred, CBT and psychodynamic approaches, she creates a safe, collaborative space for adults working through depression, anxiety, bereavement, low self-esteem and relationship difficulties.

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Frequently Asked Questions

Should I wait until the legal process is complete before starting therapy?

I initiated the separation. Am I allowed to grieve?

Can therapy help me support my children through the separation?